Children should always expect from their parents love and care. But what if the parents are toxic?
How would you feel if I told you that?
In 2,008, the Administration of Children and Families in the U S Department of Health and Human Services reported that more than 50 0 children were officially counted as victims of emotional abuse.
Whether hurtful words are intended to cause pain or not, they can leave marks and memories from a short time to a lifetime. Hurtful remarks can come from loved ones, such as parents, and the psychological and emotional damage can be detrimental to a lot of people, especially their children.
The way parents raise their children and behave around them sets up the basic ground which built their personality and selfesteem. So how do you know if a parent or caretaker is toxic? Here are eight things toxic parents say that can affect a child's life.
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Offensive words towards their appearance, You're ugly, too fat, too short or too skinny, or you have ugly hair. Degrading a child based on their appearance will likely only increase their physical insecurity and worry about their body image. This could lead to serious emotional issues, such as eating disorders. Parents are supposed to teach their children how to love themselves no matter how they look on the outside.
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Provocative questions towards actions like, Why do you Act so weird? Why do you walk that way? Chew that way, move or talk that way. Children tend to believe anything their parents say, so sarcastic questions or remarks like these may make the child feel like there's something wrong with them.This makes it very hard for the child to be themselves around people, even during their adulthood. And they may then be trapped by the discomfort and fear that others may laugh at them or notice the flaws that their toxic parents made up for them.
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Selfish Wishes I wish you were never born. I wish I had an abortion. I regret having you. I wish you were a different child. Parents should never say something like this to a child. It'll make them feel like they weren't supposed to exist in this world in the first place and that they don't deserve to be alive. These remarks are so harmful to a child, to a human general, they diminish their whole sense of identity, which can lead to self harm and early depression. Instead, parents should make them feel loved and valued for making the child feel like a burden. You cost me too much money. It's so hard to take care of you. Having you exhaust me. If a parent says this to their child, the child will feel like a burden. It'll cause them to unconsciously hide their needs, feelings and problems just to avoid the wrath of the parent. Considering that NEM was a nonprofit children's healthcare system, reported that lack of love and affection or materialistic things are some of the causes for some children to lean on stealing and being abusive.
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Unhealthy Comparisons Why aren't you, like your sibling cousin? Are the other kids? The other kids are better than you? This will reduce a child selfesteem substantially and makes them think that they'll never be good enough, no matter how hard they try. Also, comparing siblings with one another only promotes an unhealthy relationship between them. This will cause them to feel jealousy and resentment towards each other. Siblings should be equally given the right to build their own independent identities.
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Verbally abusive words are statements. You're stupid, useless. You're a loser, or you'll never make it. Absolute remarks like this will damage the child's selfesteem. It's important that parents encourage their children into believing in themselves.
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Threatening abandonment.I'll leave you. I'll put you aside, you'll wake up and never find me. I'll just disappear. This will cause a child to have abandonment issues varying that people they love will leave them because of who they are. When a child grows up, this belief will be unconsciously ingrained in their mind. They'll be unable to trust future relationships for fear of them leaving.
And eight.
Empty promises. If you do this, I'll buy you that, or I'll take you there next time, but then they don't do it. When a parent makes promises that they don't keep, it breaks the child's trust. It makes the child feel betrayed. Making fake promises is an excellent way to teach a child how not to trust others in life. To conclude, even though words aren't physically harmful, they can be extremely harmful to the psyche and emotional wellbeing. Childhood is an essential chapter in every human's life. Our childhood builds are personalities, behaviors,and beliefs. Have you experienced any of these forms of abuse? How do you feel about them? Do you know someone who has and could benefit from watching this video? Please consider sharing this video to reach worldwide attention so parents or future parents can also be more mindful about how they talk to their children.
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