Saturday, April 6, 2024

THE IMPORTANCE OF HAVING STRUGGLE IN OUR DAILY LIVES

 

One of the precepts of Buddhism is that by its nature, life involves suffering. (Another context of the original terminology means unfulfillment.) There’s something to that, but it only tells part of the story. Life sucks, and life is awesome—it all depends on which specific moment of it is being considered.

A satellite falls out of orbit and totals your new car—that sucks! Your greatest rival at the office moves to Outer Mongolia, and you get the big promotion—that’s awesome! So really, life is a random grab bag containing both good and bad. That goes back to the concept of the world as a wheel of fortune, which sounded a lot cooler before the goofy game show ruined the phrase.

The thing is, we’d take the good things in life for granted if not for the bad things. For example, we wouldn’t appreciate light if not for darkness. As the proverb goes, hunger is the best sauce. If I haven’t had a nasty cold in ages, I worry that I might get too complacent about good health. This is a point going back again to Eastern philosophy, as well as the Stoic tradition which developed quite similar concepts independently.

Behavioral science weighs in

John B. Calhoun’s “Mouse Utopia” experiment warns of what could happen when life is too easy. He created a large pen called “Universe 25” and introduced eight mice into it (four male, four female). The big rodent housing project had room for nearly 4,000 mice, with food and water capacity far exceeding that. The mice got clean litter and fresh air, and were protected from predators and disease. With nobody moving their cheese, these mice had it made—or did they?

Much like so many utopian schemes devised by meddlesome social engineers, the mouse pen became a catastrophe. In the beginning, there was a population explosion. However, the rate of increase slowed after nearly a year. The population eventually peaked at 2,200 mice, still well within capacity. After day 600, no more mice were born. Meanwhile, their culture was degenerating. Here’s what happened:

Among the aberrations in behavior were the following: expulsion of young before weaning was complete, wounding of young, increase in homosexual behavior, inability of dominant males to maintain the defense of their territory and females, aggressive behavior of females, passivity of non-dominant males with increased attacks on each other which were not defended against. After day 600, the social breakdown continued and the population declined toward extinction. During this period females ceased to reproduce.

Does any of that sound familiar?

Their male counterparts withdrew completely, never engaging in courtship or fighting. They ate, drank, slept, and groomed themselves—all solitary pursuits. Sleek, healthy coats and an absence of scars characterized these males. They were dubbed “the beautiful ones.” Breeding never resumed and behavior patterns were permanently changed.

Surprisingly, the study doesn’t mention these mice being absorbed in video games and porn. Calhoun described this rodent version of cultural collapse as a “behavioral sink”. He kept repeating the experiment, changing some variables (such as rationing food), but couldn’t find a way to prevent irreversible decline.

Likely overcrowding disturbed their behavioral customs irreversibly; the comparison with densely-populated urban environments often has been made. However, they didn’t reacquire normal behavior after the population dwindled, or even acculturate when some were removed and placed with normal mice. I speculate that boredom could’ve contributed to terminal malaise; even these little creatures with a brain the size of a kidney bean need adventure and challenge in their lives.

What this could be doing to people

On a broader scale, some negative changes eventually occur for domesticated species. When they no longer must hunt for food and defend against predators, natural selection stops working. Without chlorine in the gene pool, evolution goes into reverse gear. Among several effects, researchers have noted that their intelligence declines and sexuality becomes disrupted (like same-sex mounting and mating outside their breed). The most alarming aspect is that modern ease of living might be doing this to the human population, though that—among other aspects of dysgenic degeneration—is a topic worthy of its own consideration.

In the Current Year, many are taken up with idle pursuits. Goofing off occasionally isn’t so bad, unless it’s taken to excess. Still, why are so many emotionally wrapped up in whether their sportsball team wins or loses? Comics, fantasy, and science fiction are fine for entertainment, but why do some people make that a religion? I could say quite a few things about people who pierce up their faces or get tattooed like a Yakuza hit man. We’re in the most libertine time since the decadent phase of the Roman Empire (at least), but meaningless sex is not making us fulfilled. Cheap escapes like marijuana and (considerably worse) hard drugs are quite popular, although their drawbacks are common knowledge.

Are these just weird trends, or is there more to it? Some of this is indeed by design. Still, perhaps cultures where concerns of immediate survival are distant are at risk of people lacking meaning in their lives. The phrase “First World problems” speaks volumes. It’s also no coincidence that the world’s most wealthy and powerful are among the most decadent.

Should we seek the easy life?

Someone I once worked for—who we affectionately called Satan—said the American Dream was putting your feet up on the desk while the money rolls in all on its own. I hate to admit it, but Satan had a point. I’d only add that “something for nothing” mentality isn’t only an American affliction.

Many dream of winning the lottery. (Those who are bad at math consider it an investment strategy.) Yet the question must be asked—for what purpose? If the answer is to be free to watch TV and play video games all day, I’ll suggest that there are better things to do! Sure, work sucks, but the daily grind has an upside. Other than paying our bills, individual efforts help to advance the economy forward.

In ancient Greece, it was believed that an aristocracy that didn’t need to work is advantageous, since they’d be free—“eleutheros”—to pursue intellectual efforts like philosophy. (Today, there are plenty of unemployed philosophy graduates, but is this a great achievement?) Some old-school socialists looked forward to the day when work hours could be reduced, envisioning that the common people would have more time to create and enjoy cultural works. We have the 40-hour work week now, but sportsball seems to be more popular than attending symphonies or painting pictures.

Star Trek depicts a society where nobody lacks anything. As Sam Francis (not exactly a Trekkie) put it:

The planet Earth and much of the inhabited universe have been unified under a mysterious, omnipotent, but benevolent “Federation,” and there seem to be no wars, no political or social conflicts, and no wants in this warp-speed utopia unified by Global Democratic Capitalism gone galactic. Indeed, what else does the human race in the Star Trek cosmos have to do but stick its nose into the affairs of other species? They can zip about the galaxy at velocities faster than light and “beam” themselves from one place to another instantaneously, and there never seems to be any question of food, clothing, money, disease, aging, or even of career advancement in this placid paradise.

Starfleet crews apparently have the only exciting jobs left. The shows don’t describe the daily lifestyles of Federation civilians too thoroughly, but it must be dreadfully boring if everyone can get everything they need by pushing a button.

In the final analysis

Ultimately, we shouldn’t desire the life of maximum ease, but the life well lived. The “Golden Mean” rule applies to struggle in our lives. Too much makes life dreary and grim, but too little makes it boring. The point of the Epic of Gilgamesh is that how long you live isn’t what counts, but how well you live your life. The message from the world’s oldest book is still quite relevant, thousands of years later.

5 AUTHENTIC ACTIVITIES THAT CAN TEST A MAN’S CHARACTER

 

ROK writer Corey Savage is right to assert that one of the most authentic manifestations of masculinity is warfare. Everything else is pretty much only surrogate activities and often “inauthentic” as such (for example martial arts).

But a man should be hesistant to join an armed force and fight alongside the globalists, even though the underlying training process is constructive, masculine, and helpful whenever real catastrophes occur. An exception would perhaps be to fight ISIS but as much as I sympathize with Kurds and other Middle Easterners who suffer from the damages caused by the Sunni terrorist sect, I am hesitant to join them in their battles at this point.

Therefore a more individualistic approach might be taken, which also has the benefit of not imposing a person’s endeavor on anybody else. Both the German philologist Friedrich Nietzsche and the Italian cultural analyst Julius Evola have emphasized the importance of having a riskful existence (Evola himself became partially paralyzed after sauntering around in Vienna while the Austrian city experienced severe bomb attacks during World War II) and I also think life becomes incomplete if one merely lives through a petty, safe existence.

During the pre-family stage of a man’s life (often until 30-40 years of age during current circumstances), or in some cases during the last stages of it, a man can partake in a number of risky and authentic activities that will put him to the test. Below are a couple of concrete suggestions.

1. Snorkeling and scuba diving

Snorkeling and scuba diving are generally safe pursuits, but once you choose your own spots and conditions, or diverge from the typical safe route that a guide or instructor have provided for you, things become riskier and indeed real.

For instance, at the Great Barrier Reef in Australia, one can meet fairly large reef sharks and lethal stingrays. Also the weather conditions, such as the wave and currents, affect the level of risk.

2. Mountaineering and hiking

Needless to say, mountaineering and hiking can be sketchy. For instance, K2 in the Himalayas are one of the tougest peaks to conquer and there are many more such around the world, not just in Central Asia. Perhaps it is wise to start with a less demanding and expensive route and then decide afterwards if it is something for you or not.

Hiking can also be a real challenge. Personally I prefer (sub)tropical areas, like Taiwan, since they bring an exotic flavor to the senses and make you sweat a lot, but locations in temperate or arctic climate can be interesting to penetrate as well.

3. Urban exploration

ROK writer André Du Pôle has examined the Paris catacombs and I myself has endured similar activities in the Swedish capital.

Urban exploration is an excellent way to magnify the personality traits openness to experience and psychopathy. You need to be or become a little crazy in order to walk around in dark tunnels, hospitals or whatnot. It can also be combined with some more theoretical and practical knowledge of the particular environments that you visit. Asylums, for example, tend to be interesting.

Furthermore, a man can do less planned city walks in various shady neighborhoods, like Tijuana in Mexico or some American equivalent. Stay alert.

4. Wildlife excursions

Akin to hiking, wildlife excursions constitute another method to explore the real, objective earth authentically. Of course one can generally follow a safe route, but there are various ways in which a man can depart from it too.

I recall for instance when I walked around on Rincah Island in Indonesia, densely populated with the famous Komodo dragons, with only a stick as a tool to use if confronted by the big varans. And I met plenty of them from a very small range.

Of course there are many places in the U.S., Australia, Africa, and Europe which likewise offer risky encounters with wild animals.

5. Parachuting

I’ve only tried parachuting once, in tandem with an instructor. It is very unlikely in that case for something to go wrong. Hence it resembles a more extreme roller coaster ride, and therefore it is a borderline case with regard to authenticity.

However, the experience is still very thrilling and should be lived through at least once in a lifetime. It is also possible to continue with single-person jumps as a hobby, and which implies that a man has to take full responsibility for the process.

A much more extreme form is to fly with wingsuits, but that is a bit too difficult, expensive, and risky in my opinion. I rather stick with more simple and natural tasks.

In closing

A man, before building a family at least, should occasionally transcend his safe modern existence and try some fun or thrilling activities that will remind him that he lives. If he does not die from it, of course.

If you want to read more of William Adams’ material, check out his website Syncretic Politics.

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EVERY MAN MUST VISIT HIS ANCESTRAL VILLAGE

 

My appreciation for Croatia grows deeper every time I visit. This week I went to my “selo” (pronounced sell-oh). The Selo to me is more than just a summer respite between trips down the coast, so the direct translation of “village” doesn’t quite cut it.

To me the Selo is homemade wine; it’s barrel-brewed rakija (fruit brandy bordering on moonshine), the bursting fragrance of the overripe plums, figs and pomegranates from which this traditional liquor derives. The Selo is old babas (grandmothers) covered in the black shawls with which they honor their long-dead husbands—warriors who served and died defending their homeland during several generations of Balkan war.

The Selo is traditional women playfully berating you for not eating enough just after stuffing you full with freshly-baked bread, a hearty stew and all the lamb you can stomach. The Selo is Bura, the sharp, howling Northern wind that emerges with absolutely no warning and just as rapidly decays into nothing, a signal perhaps to unwelcome visitors that their time here is fleeting.

To me, the Selo is a home that is at once very real and a very distant dream. Despite the tranquility of it all, there are three practical reasons to visit your ancestral village: knowing where you come from is incredibly grounding, knowing your options improves your bottom line in life as a negotiator, and knowing yourself gives you peace of mind. All of this knowledge is best found in the Selo.

 

Know Where You Come From

While the Selo may be bountiful, it doesn’t come without its problems. Though many of my cousins’ fathers had perished in war not more than a generation ago (those who didn’t tend to drink themselves into a stupor) their sons have since been blessed with beautiful lives, families of their own, and vast tracts of untaxed land to build up into whatever future they might envision.

As for me, I may command a higher salary at a corporate job, but I’ve had to learn game just to stay afloat within the unnatural, toxic maze of sex-signalling internet whores and masculine Third Wave Feminists that comprise the North American dating market today. Despite the relative chastity and traditional values of Croatian-Canadian women, I’m still too young to marry (at least back in the West where most Croatian women do still pursue an education and career).

At the end of the day, it is reassuring to know that there is a life beyond Canada that better reflects my true values, and that the people living out just such a life are doing perfectly fine. This, in stark contrast to Western media’s typical portrayal of the sullen-eyed Slav and his supposedly dismal xenophobic culture makes me feel more at home in my convictions. Growing up in an anti-White cesspool such as Canada can be stifling. Exposing yourself to visceral examples of your heritage is a remedy to false multiculturalism that cannot be experienced merely by watching YouTube videos.

Know Yourself

Everyday I’ve been here I’ve walked past at least one pregnant or child-rearing woman about my age or younger who in Vancouver could just as easily be showering herself in male attention with Twitch or Patreon donations, funding her useless Liberal Arts degree by stripping nude online whenever it pleases her.  At my advanced age (I’m just shy of 25), I’m no stranger to village marriage solicitations—insomuch as they are announced in half-joking manner by well-meaning parents who wish to capitalize on some North American social value for their daughters, they often do represent real dating opportunities.

While many men in the West are driven to their brink and feel as though they have no option other than to expatriate, as a dual-citizen I’m caught between. It’s at the stage of my life that I wonder if I’ve been robbed of a better one. While my cousins are limited by their geography—and for many of them, a college degree and proficiency in English—I remain in the purgatory of indecision.

Should I spend the next few years working hard to build a location-independent income just to return to Europe and marry my future village bride anyway or should I take the plunge and simply live as my cousins do, open an olive oil business and grind out my days as a young family man sooner rather than later?

In the Selo, “divorce rape” is what happens to a harlot’s reputation if she dares leave you, not what happens to your wallet when a biased court system strips you of everything you own. While my closest relatives reap in the natural delights that an investment in family entails, I constantly question whether I’m really doing anything better with my life, if the celebrity I experience for being a “stranac” (ethnic foreigner with money) has any real lasting value. In the past two years, I’ve learned some new programming languages, I’ve drank some new kinds of beer and I’ve captured a handful of new flags. What else new will I really gain from another ten years of being a bachelor?

Know Your Options

Whereas in the past I was annoyed by the overt honesty and intrusiveness of village folk, I’ve since come to appreciate their open, non-chalant nature. As I grow older, I feel more and more valued in their presence. I wonder if this is what it feels like to be a camgirl or Instagram Babe in North America. To tell you the truth, it feels alright. The best part is that I don’t have to strip naked while feigning allegiance to some fictitious social movement such as “body positivity” in order to prove my worth.

All a man requires to be successful here, with woman or in business, is a consistent work ethic, integrity, and a willingness to tell compelling stories. More than anything, whenever I visit the Selo I come face-to-face with the kind of life I could live if I were willing to make the commitment. This gives me a mental edge when it comes to negotiating with business partners, employers, and whatever else life has to throw at me. If all else fails, I know that I could live a life of relative splendor for next to no financial burden, even if at the expense of some of the more comfortable aspects of modernity, such as a high monthly salary, a marginally better Netflix selection and legal Marijuana.

Chuang-tzu once said that “the wise man knows it is better to sit on the banks of a remote mountain stream than to be emperor of the whole world.” I would agree and add that’s it’s better to be a poor, happy Seljak (villager) than a prostrate corporate yuppie with a 6-figure salary. If you ever have the chance to visit your Selo, whether in Europe, Vietnam, India, or elsewhere—whether you can speak the language fluently or not—do not neglect your chance to do so. Take advantage of every opportunity. The Selo knows you best. The more you know about yourself, the less uncertain you’ll feel about your future.

Fuck the Selo for showing me what I could have yet don’t possess, but God Bless it for showing me who I am.

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10 SIGNS OF MEN WHO HAVE THE LOSER MENTALITY

 

Over the years I’ve known a few friends (and, sadly, family) who at some point I began to see in a different light—these were men very close to me who eventually revealed themselves to always make bad decisions, avoid personal change and self improvement, fail with women (or get with terribly low-tier ones), and periodically need my help to get themselves out of a hole they had dug for themselves.

At the very least it was slightly annoying, but after bailing them out numerous times I become angry and frustrated with the lack of personal responsibility. I came to understand that these are broken men.

What I now call the “loser mentality” is not reserved for extreme cases like drug addicts, felons, and so forth.  Sometimes otherwise nice, decent people are actually living a “loser” life; not everyone is necessarily “bad” but sadly are still a net negative and will drain us of money, motivation, time, and more if we don’t make the hard choice to walk away from them.

There appear to be common traits among these types which serve as telling indicators of those who your good intentions are wasted on.  Allow me to present several here.

1. Their Lives Often Start With Paths That Are Difficult To Recover From

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Sometimes your choices are costly in the long run. Even more costly is never trying to move ahead and escape.

One of my closest friends married young and had several children with a woman despite being in a low income bracket at the time, and still works up to two low-paying part time jobs, spending his best years struggling instead of advancing & growing.  My brother, to my dismay, had several children by several different women.  Another friend of mine became somewhat of an alcoholic and dropped out of the community college we were attending many years ago, despite my encouragement in staying.

In all cases, the theme was the same: these mistakes, along with a failure to pursue the opportunity for a better life (and the possibility of recovering one day) cemented their fate: a life of having to rely on others, never being able to “dig out of the hole” financially, and never enjoying the things in life that the rest of us do.

Reflecting on this common theme I see the same in others: their lives often started down a very hard road, and yet they never seem willing to make the short-term sacrifices (despite opportunities to do so) that would ensure long-term improvement and allow them to break out before it’s too late

2. They Make the Same Mistakes Over and Over

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It’s often pointless to discuss the obvious with those who live as “losers.” I understand, very humbly, that we all make poor decisions from time to time; what is critical is whether we learn and grow from this or foolishly disregard the consequences again and repeat our stupid decisions.

My own version of Einstein’s statement regarding insanity is this: “Doing the same thing again and again and expecting different results is the definition of stupidity.” Those with the loser mentality will quit jobs for trivial reasons, give up free education, wreck their vehicles (and lose them), get arrested over and over, and impregnate women again and again.  And yet seem very passive about the consequences and how far away from happiness and success they place themselves.  It’s amazing, and infuriating, to see.

3. They Accept Money And Pity But Never Solid Advice

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Some people seem to always be this away. As if it were simply bad luck.

This is one of single greatest truths regarding these types that I’ve ever learned. Every time these people came back to me, there was always some urgent emergency and they needed money badly.  I helped how I could, and was supportive of course with kind words and enthusiasm, but I came to see something happen every time.

I spent much time sharing personal advice about how to improve their lives and yet, not once was any of my advice takenNEVER.

Funny, all the Facebook comments and prayers and positive comments and sympathy seem to be welcome and responded to, but never anything truly meaningful is done about it. Honest, intelligent, and sincere advice is a waste of time on those with the loser mentality.  Save it for men who deserve it.  I’ll never make that mistake again.

4.  They Don’t Really Want To Change

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This is what it pretty much amounts to. So much for your great & insightful advice

From #3 above, there’s a general underlying problem: men who live a sad, low-tier life often do so by choice.  We have more opportunity in the West than many areas of the world.  And yet, so many seem content to live miserable lives, severely restricted from what is right in front of them and all the possibilities that exist.  How is this possible?

There is an underlying lack of a desire to change.  Seeing some of my best friends constantly move backwards in life began to show how they avoided seizing the opportunities that others, and fate, provided them. Given an opportunity to move to a better location?  Set up with a job interview at a better place?  Encouraged to apply for a grant and attend a trade school?  Dress better, get in shape? NO.

When you’re a loser, and think as a loser does, you always have some excuse or “reason” to avoid anything that requires stepping outside your comfort zone or moving forward.  They don’t want to change, and that’s that!

5. They Place The Blame Elsewhere

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Life does hold random fate. However, a wise man betters his odds, not blame them for failure.

It never fails, and unfortunately I’ve had to witness a family member doing this: rarely, if at all, admitting, “Yeah, I messed up.”

Conveniently blaming bad luck, bad timing, or just being completely oblivious to the consequences of poor choices is a trait you’ll find repeatedly with these types.  I’ve even heard “The man is trying to keep me down.”

6. They Often Need To Be Bailed Out Of Bad Situations

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One of the most significant characteristics of a loser is their need to be bailed out of bad situations, often in a very sudden manner.

Their lack of foresight and low income means they rarely have any emergency funds to withdraw from a bank, and then you’re left with the chore of sending them money via Moneygram or something similar for whatever situation they’ve found themselves in.  More often than not their problem is due to poor planning or not living within their means.  You’re extremely fortunate if they repay you, which is another topic unto itself.  Other times they’re in jail again and need to be bailed out when no one else is willing to do so any longer.

I recall helping one of my friends years ago in his “emergency situation” when he claimed to desperately need cash for gas to travel to work and buy food.  I urgently rushed to send the money via Western Union.  Do you think I was ever repaid?  Could I ever ask the same from him?  I think you already know the answers.

7.  They’re Slightly Dysfunctional – Behavior That At Times Is Awkward or Irrational

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Odd behavior = clues to problems.

A pivotal moment when my eyes became open was when I once suggested to one friend that perhaps rather than working 2 poorly paying part-time jobs he could start with a decent full-time job, enjoy more free time, and then later move to an even better/higher-paying full time job.  His quality of life at the time was very low, working above-average hours per week at a trivial pay rate.

Similarly, with a family member and also a friend with a below-average life I suggested going to school part-time for a skilled trade or an Associate’s Degree, which would open doors fairly easily to greatly improve their income and give them the opportunity to live in better places where their skills would be in demand.

In all cases I was met by awkward, bizzare silence and even a strange behavior in which they seemed to act as if I hadn’t said a word.  And at times their behavior in social situations showed they are not well-equipped to interact with others as expected of men their (adult) age.  It’s a very odd thing to see.

When you innately have problems and live in a world where you retreat into your shell like a turtle, you are living a dysfunctional and counter-productive life.

Witnessing one talk about women (some of which were productive, attractive, respectful) as if they even had a remote shot a such a woman showed me they had a skewed outlook and were unrealistic in their perception at times.  They have almost nothing, and yet at times have the desire to have women who are attracted to men who are more successful.

8.  Their Choices Are Often Enabled by Others

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After witnessing many situations both different and similar to those I’m recalling here, another pattern emerges:  Losers continually rely on the help of others, always anticipating that someone will bail them out, thereby enabling their behavior time and time again.

Sadly, it’s both distressing to be called upon to help someone you once respected, knowing full well this is a result of their poor decisions yet again, and the stress and annoyance of it is a drag on you internally.

The difference is that we must understand that men with the loser mentality subconciously expect someone to bail them out every time.  It becomes learned behavior…they’re never forced to struggle and resort to find a solution themselves.

Despite your best intentions, continually bailing out losers won’t help them in the long run – they’ll just get by until it happens again the next time.  It’s time to say “no.”

9.  They Live Day-to-Day, And Don’t Think About the Long-Term

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When a relative of mine died almost 10 years ago, I received a small amount of money.  I reflected back on how my father had little to no money during his retirement age years and had little to get by on.  I decided to make the right decision and start a retirement account back then, which now is considerably larger.

I watched time and time again as my old friends and acquaintances would come into large tax refunds, a bit of interitance, or so forth.  Inevitably, the money would be gone very quickly, often into a car or petty things, rather than planning for the future and being concerned about how they’d get by later.

It never fails:  those who live paycheck-to-paycheck never truly live below their means (in which case they could begin to get ahead) or give serious thought to how they’ll survive emergencies.

10.  If You Ever Need Their Help, Prepare to Be Disappointed

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I’ll never forget how it felt to need help in an emergency from someone I loaned money to multiple times in the past, along with many other forms of help, only to be denied.  It was an extremely angering feeling in the middle of a stressful situation.

On a trip a few years ago to a latin country, I later discovered that my debit card became lost or stolen between Miami and a rural area overseas (we traveled from the capital to her parent’s 2nd home).  It was an emergency situation as I had very limited cash and no means to access my bank account overseas (although I should have prepared better).  I was stressed, in a difficult situation, and it was a rare time I really needed someone’s help.

I called back to the USA to someone in my family and told them how I needed maybe $300 or $400, etc. to hold me over until I returned.  What did you think I heard?  “Ain’t got no money, man.”  And the same from his wife at the time “Naw, ain’t got no money.”  Not, “I don’t have the money, but I can get it here or from so-and-so”, or “Let me ask xxx if they could help me out”, or even “Don’t worry I’ll get an emergency loan to get you by.” After so many times I helped this was my reward:  nothing.

By the grace of God, my father who was living off of social security, was able to send me a bit of money until I got home.

Never expect help when you really need it from those who have the loser mentality.  These broke-ass losers are living day-to-day worrying about themselves and losers cannot be counted on.  Ever.

In Conclusion

Of all my regrets in life, one of my greatest was all the money I lost and the naive, foolish concern and effort I wasted on those who honestly have little to show for their lives.  It was particularly sad because these were often guys I once enjoyed the company of and was close to, and had good memories with.  As time went on I saw their lives turn into sad melodramas and I realized they are a drain on our resources and motivation.

Being burned the one time in my life that I really needed help from one was an especially unforgettable lesson.

I no longer foolishly give time, money, or advice to those I know who I recognize as being of the “loser mentality”: going nowhere in life, disregarding advice, and never trying to better themselves.

Take my advice:  Learn to separate losers from men who genuinely deserve your resources and concern.  Walk away from those who have the characteristics I shared here and would affect your life negatively.

THERE CAN BE NO PATRIARCHY WITHOUT PATRIARCHS

  THERE CAN BE NO PATRIARCHY WITHOUT PATRIARCHS   RYAN LANDRY     MAY 3, 2017 MASCULINITY   369 COMMENTS Ryan Landry This article first appe...